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Can you Change Adoptive Couples? [Having Second Thoughts]

If you’re wondering “Can I change adoptive couples?” it’s likely because you want to be sure you have the freedom to change your mind if you’re second-guessing your decision.

Of course you can change adoptive couples, because, as the prospective birth parent, you’re always in control of your adoption plan. That includes being able to choose the family that you feel is capable of giving your baby an amazing life. We understand how important it is to feel confident in your decision, so if you suddenly doubt your choice, you have the freedom to change your mind.

However, this is a big choice. Adoption can be an emotional experience, and it’s important to be completely sure about a decision this big.

Whether you’re currently questioning your choice of hopeful adoptive parents or you just want to have the peace of mind that you’re allowed to change adoptive couples, we have you covered. An adoption specialist can help you at any point in your adoption process. Contact us now to get more information, or continue reading below.

Your Adoption Plan, Your Choice

When it comes to creating your adoption plan, you are the one who gets to call all the shots. One of the most important parts of your adoption plan is choosing the prospective adoptive parents.  You are free to change adoptive couples at any point in your adoption journey before you place your child with the family.  You want to choose a family that embodies the values you’d like your child to be raised with, and you can take as much time as you need to do so.

Choosing a family that feels like the perfect fit for your baby is key to building a foundation of trust and a positive adoption experience, and we can help you find the right family. You’ll be able to sit down with your adoption specialist and discuss exactly what you’re looking for in an adoptive couple such as:

  • Culture

  • Religion

  • Family traditions

  • Whether or not they have other children

  • Location

  • And more

These are just a few of the traits you’ll be able to choose when looking for the ideal hopeful adoptive family. Your adoption specialist will present you with adoption profiles of prospective adoptive couples who match your preferences. Once you find the couple you feel is a perfect fit, you’ll be able to get to know them through pre-placement contact. If at any point you start to second guess the couple you’ve chosen, you can change your mind.

How to Change Adoptive Parents in Texas [3 Steps]

If for whatever reason you decide that the adoptive family you’ve chosen isn’t quite meeting your standards like you’d hoped, you can change couples.  Your adoption specialist can help make this happen. You always have the power to choose. So, how do you do this?

Step 1. Let your Adoption Specialist Know

Your adoption specialist has your back every step of the way throughout your adoption process. They will never judge your choices or try to persuade you in any way. You’ll always be in the driver’s seat of your adoption plan, but your adoption specialist will be there to put all these choices in motion and help you feel confident in your next steps. Your adoption specialist wants what’s best for you and will always support your decisions.

If you’ve decided to change adoptive couples, your adoption specialist can help make this happen for you. Once you’ve communicated your decision to change your mind, they can begin helping you find a new hopeful adoptive family.

Step 2. Think about what you want

If you’re changing adoptive couples, it’s important that you understand what led to this decision. You know what’s best for you and your baby. So, what about the previous hopeful adoptive family didn’t check your boxes?

This is something you can talk through with your adoption specialist. You can reevaluate the qualities you’d like to see in a prospective adoptive family. Your adoption specialist will work with you to create an updated set of preferences for your ideal adoptive family and will present you with more adoptive family profiles that include what you’re looking for.

Step 3. Find New Adoptive Parents

Choosing a new adoptive family will follow the same process as the first time around. You’ll be able to review as many adoptive family profiles as you need. You’ll be able to introduce yourself over the phone and get to know them through pre-placement contact. Keep the qualities that dissuaded you from the last couple at the front of your mind as you get to know a new adoptive couple so that you can be sure you’re making the right choice for you and your baby.

What to Think about when Changing Adoptive Families

There’s nothing wrong with changing your mind about the adoptive couple you chose. This is a big decision, and we understand that you want to be absolutely sure you’re making the best decision for your baby. It’s your adoption plan, and you always have the freedom to make your own choices.

Choosing the perfect adoptive family isn’t a black and white decision. Perhaps the family you chose looked good on paper, but the chemistry wasn’t there as you got to know them personally. These are the people who will be raising your child; it’s perfectly understandable to be critical of your decision. If you have doubts about your decision, you shouldn’t be confined to a choice you don’t feel strongly about.

Remember, every family your adoption specialist shows you have gone through the home study process and has been thoroughly screened by our staff. We work with the best adoptive families, and you can feel confident that your baby will grow up in a safe, loving home.

Moving Forward

Choosing adoption for your baby is a loving and selfless decision. But it’s not always a straightforward one. When looking for the family that will raise your child, you deserve to feel confident in your decision. If you want to change adoptive couples, your adoption specialist will be by your side every step of the way. To get more information, contact us today.

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